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Just Do It

A reader asked:

How do I get started being financially free. I envy your financial wisdom and I am tired of being in debt. Like dieting, I have tried many things but nothing seems to stick. What do I do?

It’s not so much what you DO, but more in how you THINK.

To be successful with any endeavor – whether it’s to save money, get out of debt, or lose weight – you have to first believe you can do it.

Once you believe it, your vision becomes a reality.

When that reality is divided into small achievable goals, you must get mentally ready to put in the work.

When you get started, you have to be mentally prepared for the challenges ahead so that you can overcome the mistakes you are bound to make, the slow progress, and inevitable frustration.

And finally, you must have faith in a higher power to lift you up when you are discouraged and give you strength to keep on keeping on.

The rest is simple, just do it.

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Household Wealth Gap Between Whites and Blacks

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After a speech at Morehouse College, Chairman of the Federal Reserve, Ben Bernanke, was asked his opinion about the household wealth gap between whites and blacks in America.  His response to the students: “minorities need to strengthen their financial literacy” and financial education. The full article can be found here.  After reading the article, a Fabulous Financials reader wanted to know what I thought about Mr. Bernanke’s comments so here’s MY opinion. To put this in context, here’s a stat from a related article:

The gap between the wealth of white Americans and African Americans has grown. According to the Fed, for every dollar of wealth held by the typical white family, the African American family has only one dime. In 2004, it had 12 cents.

I was going to say Bush did it. LOL! But I decided to give an honest answer. I think his response was too simplistic. He chose the easiest, least controversial, way to answer a loaded question in 10 words or less. Although I do agree, everyone – not only minorities – need to strengthen their financial literacy. However, saving money, building a credit record, and integrating into the mainstream banking system (all mentioned in the article) are not the end-all-be-all solution that will magically put blacks on a level playing field with whites.

In my opinion, the household wealth gap is due to the following:

1. Whites Had a Head Start

Slavery, segregation, racism, discrimination, etc. My ancestors were slaves, my grandparents lived during segregation, my parents experienced blatant racism, and still today, I experience covert racism and discrimination. So let’s see – if I made someone hold you back with brute force for several hours while I ran full speed ahead, it would be absurd if I expected you to catch up with me in only a few minutes. Sure, there are people with stamina and sheer determination who may give me a little competition, but they are few and far between. It is difficult to overcome DECADES of physical, mental, emotional, and institutionalized oppression.

2. Closing the Gap Assumes a Level Playing Field in Other Pertinent Areas

Covert or what I refer to as “modern day” discrimination is wide spread in the school system, housing, workplace, and the “mainstream banking system.” For example:

School System – Most schools in predominantly black neighborhoods are sub-par. I had to move to an area with a very high cost of living just to get my daughter in a public school system that met MY standards. I chose the school, then I chose where I wanted to live. Now I pay more for rent than my mortgage, but this was a decision I made without hesitation because education is the #1 priority in my household. The school is excellent, the expectations are high, 70% of the faculty are PhD level, the student/teacher ratio is small, the equipment and resources are advanced, and the academic program is robust – this is non AP track. If your child meets the standards for the AP program, they are almost guaranteed acceptance into any college of their choice. Problem is, the school has less than 5% minorities. Unless parents have the resources to live in a comparable area or pay for private school, this disparity begins early and often continues throughout life.

Housing – I love my neighborhood, really I do. It’s beautiful, well kept, in a prime location, has an excellent school system, fabulous shops, very low crime rate, and easy access to the city. But why do so few black people live here? I’ll take a guess – because it costs too damn much! When BabyGirl graduates high school next year, I’m getting the hell out of dodge too. I believe minorities are intentionally priced out of certain areas. If it were more affordable, I’m sure more minorities would move here so their children would have access to better schools. But that may result in white flight, which would in turn, affect the quality of the school system. Then eventually, redlining would occur and change the dynamics of the surrounding area(s).

Workplace – The CSS has an old boys’ club with unspoken rules. Most management and executive positions are filled by whites. Those who hold positions of power often hire, groom, and recommend promotions for their own. This isn’t unusual. We’re attracted to people who look or act like us. Some blacks know how to play the game and some don’t – or refuse. Aside from the politics, our salaries and raises are smaller, promotions are less frequent, and we rarely hold top positions. We’re primarily found in blue collar or low/mid-level white collar positions. Getting to the top is recognized and celebrated as if it were a rare occasion…and it is.

Banking System – The “mainstream banking system” is a tool to build wealth, and by this, I mean savings accounts, credit accounts, business accounts, investment accounts, etc. However, minorities are more likely to be denied business loans, credit applications, mortgage loans, and more – unless it is a poorly structured loan package with a ridiculous interest rate. Other ways the mainstream system alienates black people are higher insurance rates based on zip code or credit score, fewer banks in close proximity, racial profiling based on appearance or name, etc. These are also referred to as the black tax, which we’ve discussed before.

Other stats from the related article linked above:

White families are five times as likely as families of color to have a bank account and access to responsible loan terms. Because of the lack of federally insured and regulated financial institutions on reservations and in inner cities, rural areas, barrios and Chinatowns, payday lenders and other shady financial dealers operating without government oversight have preyed on people of color, fueling the economic and foreclosure crises. African Americans and other people of color were more than three times as likely as white borrowers to be steered to high-interest loans, even when they qualified for a prime loan. A Harvard University study showed that in Massachusetts, a high-income African American was more likely than a low-income white borrower to get a subprime loan.

I will admit, minorities have less money in savings and investments. Which leads me to the next attributing factor…

3. Complacency

I’m going to keep it 100. Some people are just lazy MFs! For example: tired of struggling, choose to take the “easy” route and earn quick money. Tired of “the man,” use him/it as an excuse to stop trying. Accustomed to a life of nothing, there is little or no incentive to strive for more. Having a few dollars is “good enough,” no point in applying any extra effort. No one in the immediate environment “made it” – unless they “sold out” – so no trustworthy role models to emulate.

4. Misplaced Values and Priorities

This is more prevalent in recent generations. Our ancestors are probably turning somersaults in their graves over the choices we make today. For example: higher education is not a #1 priority, it is viewed as a financial burden or reserved for the privileged. Parenting out of wedlock is openly acceptable, single parents are the norm, and absent fathers are not shameful or accountable. Marriage is taboo. Men rely on women to lead the home. Debt is a way of life. Owning a nice car is priority over owning a home. Designer clothes and gadgets are preferred over saving.

SUMMARY

Yes, we all need more education in financial literacy. But I’d like to think that I’m financially literate, so that’s only a small part of the problem. This is proven by the fact that I own a home, have good credit, a good job by most standards, a little money in the bank, well read, well traveled, and educated – yet I am no exception to the wealth gap between whites and blacks. There are MANY other things that can be attributed to the problem.

Some factors, which have the greatest impact, are outside of our control. No matter how hard we try, these factors (#1 and #2) require black people to work 10x harder, be 10x smarter, and 10x more determined to succeed. Sometimes, even that isn’t enough to close the gap or level the playing field. But then, there are other factors (#3 and #4) that can be corrected by making better choices. These are the factors that the media and non-minorities focus on the most when “analyzing” the black community. I will not try to minimize the effects of these factors because they are substantial. Besides, I am a firm believer in personal responsibility and accountability. Made a poor decision? Live with it, learn from it, and move on! When you can do better, be better, exceed expectations! However, when the odds are stacked against you, I can not expect you to be my equal because it’s damn near impossible.

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Teach a Man to Fish…

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In December 2005, I started writing this blog to hold myself accountable and to track progress towards achieving my financial goals.  And I thought, by chance…maybe…just maybe, I would inspire someone along the way.

Over the past three years, hundreds of people have emailed me to say I’ve inspired them.  HUNDREDS, I SAY!  That’s pretty impressive, huh?  Although I enjoy reading those emails, words are just words.  Many times, I wonder “What have I inspired you to DO differently?” or “How have your ACTIONS changed as a result of something I shared?”

I already know my story inspires others.  Overcoming odds, any odds, is inspirational.  But rarely does my story drive ACTION.  Anyone who knows me personally or has read my blog for a long time knows that I’m about ACTION.  If you SAY I’ve inspired you, inspired you to DO what?  If you haven’t put your words into ACTION, then that’s all you have…WORDS.  Don’t talk about it, BE about it.

I also know it’s easier said than done for many people.  Trust me, I understand that.  Over the past three years, I’ve also helped readers financially.  I didn’t know them from a can of paint and I’ve paid phone bills, electric bills, after school care bills, payday loans, etc.  I paid the bill/creditor directly – I’m generous, not stupid.  But it doesn’t matter, it’s just money…a temporary band-aid solution for a long term problem.

If sharing my financial story is not inspiring you to DO something to CHANGE your financial situation, then I have failed.  But as soon as I begin to lose interest in blogging, I get the following email from a fabulous reader:

Hi Single Ma

I hope all is well with you and your family.  [info redacted].  I returned to school three years ago and I am graduating this May.  Your blog inspired me and I just wanted to share my story with you.  I already found a job for after graduation and I will be attending graduate school in the fall.  As soon as I am gainfully employed, I will be on my way to financial freedom like you.

Thank you for sharing your stories…

Now this is the type of email I wish I could receive EVERY. SINGLE. DAY!!

To give you all a little back history, this reader is a single mom.  She used to blog so I’m not disclosing anything she hasn’t already shared on her blog.  The reader made a very difficult decision to leave her job, relocate, and return to college full time – only after researching a unique educational program that met the needs of her family structure.  The program allowed her the flexibility to work part time while being the sole caregiver for her family and carry a full time courseload.  So for three long years, she did the damn thing!

To my dear reader, THANK YOU for sharing your story with me (us) and CONGRATULATIONS to you and your family!!  I know you’ve treaded a LOOOOOOONG road and it isn’t over yet.  But it will be SO worth it in the end.  You’ve made many sacrifices, but let me tell you something from experience, you will be giving your daughter the greatest gift of all…a lifestyle based on freedom of choice.

Freedom to live without worrying about food, bills, creditors, government assistance, etc.

Freedom to make decisions based on the greatest overall benefit to your family, not an immediate need.

And most importantly, freedom to pass on generational wealth: knowledge, experience, life lessons, and a comfortable financial foundation.

Congrats again and good luck with your new job and grad school!

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How to Cope During the Recession (Reader Contribution)

On Friday, I asked the readers of Fabulous Financials to share one recommendation on how to cope during this recession.  There were many helpful responses, but I chose a select few to highlight in today’s post.  If you’re overwhelmed by news reports, layoffs, the stock market, housing crisis, bank failures, government bailouts and stimulus plans – here are few ideas to help you cope during the hard times and keep you grounded as things improve:

Truly Tina:

Stay connected with your support system…family, friends, and associates! I know, it’s very simple advice, but it’s critical. When people are laid off and resources begin to dwindle to an uncomfortable level, some people have the tendency to devalue themselves or their abilities or are so embarrassed by their circumstances that they become a recluse. Nothing could be more detrimental! Staying connected is not only beneficial for your professional health, but for your mental and emotional health as well. Remember that you’re not alone at this time and others are there to help you out in whatever ways they can. I live in a Metro city where depression rates are on the rise and people are doing crazy things. It’s scary actually, but people resort to unfathomable measures when they have no hope for their future.

So, surround yourself with positive people. Your spirits will be lifted and besides, you never know what new opportunity is around the bend and if you have a positive countenance and outlook you’re more likely to present yourself in such light when those opportunities to network arise.

But even more paramount than staying connected with your support system is staying connected with God. Now is not the time to cease praying. Pray even more, seek God even more, and believe even more. And remember, with whatever weakness you think you may possess, God’s strength is perfected in your weakness and He is not slow in keeping His promises (provision, protection, strength, guidance, etc.). His timing is perfect…even during this recession. Trust me!

Toya:

Volunteer for two primary reasons: 1) i am able to gain experience or contacts in a field that is not currently hiring, so i will be better able to position myself for a paying position if it beomes open. for example, i am interested in making a career change into physical therapy. so i’ve decided to spend time at a PT’s office or rehab hospital gaining more insight into the profession while developing skills to operate as a PT assistant. also, when the time comes i’ll have a PT willing to write me a reccommendation for PT school. Finally, (most important) volunteering takes me outside myself to assist someone else. It reinforces that I am not the only person affected by this season of ultimate penny pinching. The small business owner of a PT office may really need an extra hand to run the office, so she can stay afloat during this unstable time. Also, I understand that with recession can come depression. But when I’m not focusing on myself all the time I worry less and that is great for my mental health

Jocelyn:

I write down five things that I am grateful for each day. This helps me to block out all of the negative news that I hear all day on the television, the radio, the newspaper, magazines and my relatives (aka mama and them).

nofearingthemoney:

Take care of yourself. A healthy body copes with stress better. It doesn’t have to be expensive: take a long walk for free. Buy a bag of apples instead of chips. Meditate or pray before going to work to deal with women in red suits. We can’t control the markets, but we can take this time to reflect and feel better physically, which take off some of the stress of coping with the recession.

Ki

What I have chosen to do to make it in these tight financial times is to plan my purchases.  Planning has forever been the thing to do in ANY event..you plan for your career, you plan your wedding, you plan for kids..you sometimes plan to kick someones…ahem.  Anyway, being that I am a crafter it’s sometimes hard to not make that purchase for a notion you think you really really need.  So, what I have been doing is planning items I want to make and utilizing materials I already have BEFORE running out to my local fabric or scrapbooking store.  I also plan my meals a week in advance, that way I know exactly what I need from the grocery store and I don’t go in making blind purchases.

Lola:

One really needs to try not to give into the “I really deserve this XXXX (insert whatever fancy item you want right now)” mode, and try to look objectively by questioning yourself in the “Can I really afford it without taking a hit to my savings” mode. Now is not the time to add on to credit card debt so that in the case of a layoff, you can focus on using your savings/unemployment income on the essentials like your living expenses without having to scrunge up obscene interest payments on credit cards for purchases you wish you never made.

Try to recession-proof your job as best as you can, by consistently going above and beyond and proving your worth to the company. Everyone is laying off employees, so try to do your best to not end up a statistic in the unemployment numbers. I know companies usually say layoffs do not target under-performers, and it’s just about reducing headcount. However, personally I have witnessed/survived 4 layoffs at different companies and I have never seen the star performers let go in layoffs.

Stay connected, volunteer, be grateful for what you have, take care of yourself, plan your purchases, avoid the “I deserve this” syndrome, and – if it isn’t too late – recession proof your job.  All of these comments address something important that we often take for granted.  Now that the economy is suffering, it is critical that we make them higher priorities in our lives.  You owe it to your community, your family/friends…and especially yourself.

Editor’s Note: The book winners have already been contacted.  Some titles are still up for grabs so there will be more give aways in the future.  Thank you all for participating!

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Reader’s Request: Professional Movers

Received the following email today:

Hi Singlema,

I need help finding a reasonable moving company to move our belongings from Maryland to North Carolina.

My research has been frustrating and I do not want to fall prey to scam artists. So would you and your fabulous readers recommend companies so that I can shop around.

Thanks!

All of my professional moves were arrange and funded by an employer so I’ve never paid attention to the cost. All other moves were courtesy of “Pookie n ‘em” for the low, low price of a six pack and some wings from the corner store. LOL So my experience with pricing professional movers is limited non-existent. Sorry I couldn’t provide any useful information. But let’s see if my fabulous readers have suggestions.

Can anyone recommend a good professional moving company?

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