My BabyGirl is Coming Home Next Weekend
Gosh, I miss her soooo much. *sigh*
I opened her bedroom door for the first time all summer and a flood attacked my eyes. Then I vacuumed and dusted her room, re-made her bed, fluffed her pillows, and took a nap on her bed.
When I woke up, I did an inventory of her school supplies.
Then drove to Target and bought her some paper, notebooks, binders, pens, pencils, bras, underwear, socks, and personal toiletries. Then drove to Giant and bought all her favorite foods and snacks.
Total damage: $165.42
I put everything neatly away, either in the kitchen or in her room.
Then I laid out all of her souvenirs from my summer trips:
- the handmade coconut purse from Hawaii
- the handmade koa wood bracelet with her name engraved from Hawaii
- the hello kitty cell phone charm with a Waikiki Beach sign hanging from her hair
- the autographed pics of Rhianna and Chris from NOLA
- the glow in the dark keychain with her nickname and the arch from St. Louis
- a magnet of playing cards from Vegas
…and closed the door again.
It’s too quiet in my house.
Even the dog sleeps at the threshold of her bedroom door.
She’ll be home on Sunday.
Then school starts on Tuesday. She’s 16 and beginning 11th grade.
16.
16.
She’s officially allowed to date. *sigh*
She’ll get her driver’s license this year. *sigh*
She’ll have a job, activities, and friends…
Before I know it, she’ll be finishing 11th grade, turning 17, and beginning 12th grade.
Then, she’ll graduate high school and leave me.
That’s only 2 years from now.
She wants to go far away…640 miles.
*sigh* I’m gonna be a mess.
There will be so many “woe is me” and “I miss my baby” posts, I might have to shut this blog down. I’ll definitely need therapy again.
*sigh*
Until then, I’ll cherish this moment of “right now.”
On Sunday, my BabyGirl will be home.
On Tuesday, my BabyGirl will begin 11th grade.
I mean, like, for real, for real. The 11th grade.
*sigh* I can’t take this. I’m going to sleep now.
I miss my baby.
Maybe I’ll feel better tomorrow.
I doubt it.
I can’t wait for my baby to come home.
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Uhm, looks like you got lucky with your BG
My BG is a total monster right now at 15 - I am tearing my hair out
Any tips on how to tame a wild beast that is called puberty and all that comes with it?
No, I’m not lucky. I’m just a mom who loves her daughter unconditionally. We’ve gone through the motions, especially THIS year. I have the gray hairs to prove it. But my love and adoration for her grows more and more each day.
If all else fails, send her away for a month or two. You’ll both realize what you take for granted. [-SM]
Mine is 12 and going to a new school, entering 7th grade - MIDDLE SCHOOL!!! I can’t believe it! What’s a real trip is that she’s going to the same school I went to with a number of the same teachers! (They all look like they haven’t aged a bit. Does that mean they were old 30 years ago?) I guess what I marvel at is that while she’s discovered lip gloss and coordinating her clothing, she’s still a girl that likes to play with dolls and watch “that’s so raven”.
But I know what you mean single ma - it seems like just yesterday she was a baby in my arms! (smile)
My baby is going into the 5th grade and I already think about that. My hubby’s baby will be a senior in high school. Neither one of us can believe how fast time is going. enjoy it while you can!
awww!!!
Single Ma, just a question. Do you think she should wait to get her license, or would you rather that she have it because she absolutely needs it? I don’t mean to prevent her from getting it simply to be controlling. Rather, if she is able to get to her school activities, etc. via public transit, then can she wait? I can also understand if you’d rather her get the license as a convenience to you or because you would rather trust her driving than her riding with her untrustworthy friends who also just got their license.
I’m not sure if I understand the question. Why should she wait? Do people get their driver’s license only when they ‘need’ it? By that time, isn’t it too late? When is the right time to practice and (hopefully) perfect one’s driving skills? I can take public transit too, but I ‘prefer’ to drive.
To be honest, there is no rhyme or reason. There is no immediate need. Yes, there is public transit. And it isn’t about convenience. She’s 16, the law says she’s of age to get a graduating license and she wants one.
That’s it.
I’d rather she learn to drive for the first time while under my care and watchful eye than when she’s an immature young adult on a college campus. Your comment reads as if you wanted to say more but hesitate. Is there something I should be concerned about? [-SM]
I used to love to come home after being away with family for the summer. And there would always be goodies that my mom had picked up for me while I was gone. I’d find them on my bed. And it always felt so good to know how missed and thought of I was over the summer.
@ clever dude.. do you live in the DMV? LOL I ask that because depending on WHERE in the DMV you live there is NO such thing as public transportation AFTER a certain hour LOL
as for my comment..
Suck it up Celie.. she’ll be home soon..
I’m actually happy she went away because LAWD YOU DONE HAD SOME EXPERIENCES and hipped me to a few new thangs in the process.. we all love to learn and NOT just about money!!!
Awww. It’s gonna be ok. Of course you miss her and will miss her when she leaves home for good. But, you know this is supposed to happen. Consider this summer a dress rehearsal.
Of course I already know I will ball my eyes out when my son puts the “peace out- gone” to me in a short decade, so I completely understand.
Ok, that was the warm, fuzzy me. The other me is complete agreement with BK. Suck it up, girl. She will home in a hot minute and you had a seriously great summer.
I like your warm and fuzzy better.
Don’t agree with her. She’s evil!! [-SM]
PS Where you gonna go next year when you send her back for the summer? Call me. LOL
If she cut up again, I may send her away to boarding school for the ENTIRE year. Then I’ll take a year off sabbatical and backpack around Europe. LOL! j/k
You know Paris is my dream. August 2009. 2 weeks. Paris, London, Rome. Mark your calendar! Oh wait, let me get my money right cuz I know you’ll be ready! LOL [-SM]
I feel you sis. My older one is in college now and the house is so quiet. The younger one hates it cause I am REALLY on his butt now…cause now there is no question about who did what around here LOL I miss my baby but I try not to call too much and stuff.
*sigh*
Mine is 10 and is beginning to grow things that I didn’t expect. I felt so melancholy and wondered if I would feel different if I wasn’t a single mom. She’s my best friend, makes me laugh, and my life will be so empty without her and really, she’ll be gone before I know it. I understand how you feel and moms everyday go through it but when it happens to you - just like motherhood - there is something so unique about it.
…and for the record: You gave me the courage to let my daughter go away next summer for a month. ME time makes me a better mom so I need to suck it up and kick her out and have some serious adventures — just like you
Girl, don’t let me fool ya. I may share the fun side of my summer ‘adventures’ on this blog, but I’ve had MANY sleepless nights and shed lots of tears since she’s been gone. In 16 years, we’ve never been away from each other this long before. My summer shenanigans were only a mild distraction. [-SM]
AAWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!
This post was too cute.
You had me missing my lil munchkin and she nothing but 10 feet away. LOL!
P.S.
She started kindergarten last week. :’-)
*sigh*
SIngle Ma - This is not even remotely related to your post, but I saw your comment about your 2009 vacation. Don’t try to cram Paris, London AND Rome in 2 weeks. It is just not enough time. Paris and London are close enough to combine. And definitely do Rome, but in a separate trip. You can take the most amazing day trips on the train out of both Paris & London so you’ll never get bored. The champagne caves in Reims, France are at the VERY top of my recommended list. Not that you asked…
Thanks for the tips. I was just messing around with a friend. I’ll be happy to even make it to Paris. [-SM]
*long suffering sigh*
Oh all right…warm and fuzzy only from now on…at least about this! But,no promises on anything else! LOL
Ok, I can live with that. LOL [-SM]
Paris, London and Rome? Ok. Works for me.
I love this post. *sniff* It reminded me of the summer I spent in Wisconsin at a summer program. When I got back home, it was like I was the long lost child. LOL My mother was in overdrive for WEEKS. Finally I had to say back up.
Being a BG to a single mom can be overwhelming, but we know that we are loved much!