Money Pet Peeve
It really bothers me when a married person (with or without kids) asks a single person (with kids) for money. Regardless of the reason or circumstance, this irks the hell out of me.
Ok, that is all.
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LOL! I already knew how you felt about this… But you do know that marriage doesn’t erase money problems… So they are basically now two broke people instead of one.
ITA with you!! it pisses me off. my bil’s gf (and he) are perfect examples of this. they spend their lives telling how they do things much better than anyone else, yet they barely live paycheck to paycheck, all while having to have the best things in life and making fun of those of us who have thrifty ways and (gasp) shop second hand. she tells me all the time how frugal she is because she never shops for clothes, yet she and bil eat out EVERY. SINGLE. MEAL. they are now saving to go on a cruise in sept and they regular pet boarding isn’t good enough for them……….NOOOOO!!! they MUST take their dogs to a doggy camp/obedience school so expensive she has to borrow money from her mother to pay for it. this girl is 25, works and owns her own home, yet is still borrowing money from mommy for this stupid kind of tripe. AND MOM LETS HER!!! ARRRRGGGGHHH!!!
so, as you can see, i don’t blame you one bit for being pissed.
I so understand your peeve. I have a friend who not only makes a significant amount of money, $20,000 more than I did when I was employed.
She has called me since I have been UNemployed to borrow money. She is still working.
I have recommended some PF books or blogs to read and she says she doesn’t have time! I would think if you were constantly borrowing from everyone you know, in the time you spent calling around, you could cut out a couple of calls to read about PF.
I totally agree. A **friend** of mine had the audacity to ask me to help her buy a plane ticket. She didn’t want to ask her husband because he just replaced the fence in the backyard … or some such nonsense! What the heck does that have to do with me?? And furthermore, why do you have to ask your own husband for money? I not-so-politely turned her down.
Marriage doesn’t make people any more finance savvy. I can see how it would be a pet peeve considering it’s probably two incomes as opposed to one, but one person with a good income and/or a better financial situation can very well be better off than two.
Personally if I were married I’d be embarassed to ask a single person for money, but not everyone thinks this way.
ROTFLMAO
Yeah, that’s pretty inconsiderate.
I dont like for anyone who has extra income period via significant other, booty calls, child support, second job, kids with social security payments, whatever its extra. Dont ask me for a loan.They just see that I am taking care of 3 children by myself with no child support or extra income, have a nice home that I own, vehicle paid off and think I am a walking ATM. So I fully agree with you on that. We could have a extensive venting session on that topic.
3 snaps…o’kaaaaaaaaay!
Tell ‘em girl! LOL [-SM]
I think it would irk me no matter who was married and who had kids. But yes, that is especially irksome!
Chile, don’t EVEN get me started!!!!!
I hate when anyone with a steady income asks me for money. If you gotta ask me for money then either you need to get a job that pays you more, find a side gig to supplement your income, or you need to get your priorities in order and stop spending the money you have on BS. Straight up.
ugh
WOOSAAHHH…
I hear ya on this one, Single Ma!
There seems to be an assumption by some in my family that since I am happily single and childfree by choice, that I have disposable income. I don’t know why folks think that I don’t have bills of my own to deal with.
Ditto @ Toni’s comments. I don’t give loans - I ain’t a bank! If you got the dollars for the fresh gear and a brand new, cute ride, then you best find the dollars for whatever it is that you want/need! And tears or acting desperate don’t rattle me! Oh, and Lil’ Kanika and DonDon big sad eyes don’t faze me either!
*dead* @ Lil’ Kanika and DonDon
BAAAAA HAAAAAAA HAAAAAAA [-SM]
If you want peeps to stop asking for money, break out the legal and binding contract that spells out the payment plan. Make sure to tack on at least the Prime Rate for loans plus a few extra percent because you just might have to take them to Court. Once they see that you got paperwork and you are just inching for a chance to go to Chitown to see Judge Mathis (and shop), they won’t ask again.
LOL
classic!
the end
Is it especially married? Would it be the same way, if it would be somebody totaly unhappy and stupid with Lil’ Kanika and DonDon eyes? (Just to be clear: I would just say no and try to leave the person behind me, regardless that she is a cousin)
I got a better one….married working folks asking a single, full-time student for money.
I don’t mind people asking to borrow money, necessarily, although I see your point. I guess everyone has to take their shot and suffer the consequences.
What I don’t like is people ASSUMING that I will loan them the money because I have it and they are relatives or friends, etc. In my personal life, my demeanor is somewhat laid back and sometimes people mistake that for being a pushover or easy to get around. So, the assumption is that because I have it, I will lend/give it. WRONG, SO WRONG.