The answer to that question is abstract because perceptions of achievement varies. I mean, my man didn’t go to college but in his previous job he was a highly-respected manager who supervised a large staff. (he’s since changed industries and is starting over) He was the sole source of income and provided a home for his [ex]wife and children. I mean, it’s not white-collar accomplishment but I consider a man who dutifully takes care of his family (because we all know some who don’t) as accomplished.

What’s key is that true partners don’t keep score on a scale of days or weeks. Our relationship evolved over 7 years, not months, so when you think on the larger scale, it’s easier to pick up the slack for a year or two, knowing that your partner did the same for you a few years ago.

I have a question that relates back to the post that spurred this story - why do single, successful women want to date men that have achieved less than them anyway? My man loves me for my accomplishments and talents, and I love him for his. .

Since we’ve only been married for a year, we’re still working out the relationship. I don’t think you could really pick someone who’s the head of household. I manage a lot, but Micah does too. I do all the cooking on weekends, for instance, and Micah does all the dishes + reheating the food during the week. Approximately the same number of hours. I write shopping lists and Micah’s in charge of shopping (sometimes I come). So far it seems to be working well. But we’re still learning. I hope that in 10 years we’ll be as well balanced as you!

This is great ” we respect each other tremendously”(SM guest).