Upgrade ME?
I was talking to Mr. iCandy last night and we were discussing my career decisions. He apologized for trying to pressure me to stay and said he was impressed that I was brave enough to do the best thing for ME. Then we joked about the series of events that led up to my decision. Dude had me in TEARS impersonating my boss. Finger pointing, head roll, emotional outbursts, threats, insincere apologies – the whole nine. That man is a straight up clown I tell ya! LOL!
Eventually, the conversation turned serious again. We talked about my career goals, his business, my 5 year plan, his industry contacts, my inside connections, where we see ourselves in 10 years – yada, yada, yada. I told him I wanted to go back to school to earn a Law degree. It pairs well with my current career field and personal strengths and it will add another layer to my skill set, position me to command bigger bucks, and give me the flexibility to change careers in the future if that is what I desire. He wants to build his business with employees who are the best in the field, and of course, smarter than he is, so he can quit the field work and focus on building his empire. I was impressed with his vision, so I prodded for more details. Some of the things he shared had me in awe. Now it takes a lot to impress Single Ma, but needless to say, if I were chocolate, I would have melted in his hands. *sigh*
[insert comfortable silence]
Then the conversation turned to money. I told him that I’d met all of my basic goals, so now I wanted to focus on investing. When it comes to money, he knows I’m not the average chic, but the tables turned and he wanted to know exactly where I stood financially. I was excited that he was interested, so I shared my net worth spreadsheet and annual earnings. He reciprocated with certain information via online accounts and I was floored. I mean, I knew he wasn’t hurting for anything, but damn! I have a wealth of financial knowledge at my finger tips and wasn’t tapping this valuable resource? Man, I’ve been slipping!
So I joked, “Damn baby, I thought I was doing alright for myself, but looking at you, I haven’t accomplished a damn thing.”
This fool said, “Nah sweetie, it’s ok. You’re not supposed to be doing as well as me (insert chauvinistic sarcasm). Now that we won’t be working together anymore, I can upgrade you.”
HA HA HA
I hate him! LOL
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WOW! get it girlfriend!
I don’t think I can handle him. LOL [-SM]
Single Ma! You go get yours! And I’m laughing at the “iCandy” now…I think I preferred Mr. Eye Candy…cuz I know that your eye was WORKING him up and down on the sly.
Yes girl, I miss seeing that fine azz specimen dressed in a suit everyday. The image implanted in my brain was enough to feed my sweet tooth for a week! LOL
Best of luck…and soon we may be calling you “Married Ma”
Uh, no thanks. [-SM]
WHAT!?? Upgrade you — doesn’t he realize you’re Single Ma – you can upgrade yourself. :)
Only a confident man can handle what is known as Single Ma, so I don’t mind taking a step down to cruise in the passenger seat. ;-) [-SM]
Helloooo – you don’t need anyone to upgrade you – you can do it on your own!
Yes, I know it AND he knows it.
(using my Shenay-nay voice)
But I’m a laaaaaaaady! HA HA HA
I LOVE IT.. I LOVE IT.. Ooooh Nettie.. I’s gone tell Paw on you!!!!
Listen here Celie, if you stop tattle telling all the time, maybe I’ll let you run away with me. LOL [-SM]
Although you don’t NEED anyone to upgrade you.. Go head on an Git it girl!!!! I love Mr. ICandy LOL… yes.. now I get to turn the tables on YOU
But umm, you wrong for turning the tables though. No stalkeration over here! Ha! [-SM]
I see you Diamond.. LOL
You’z a nut! LOL [-SM]
Oh yes, you don’t NEED him, so he can focus on spoiling you.:)
I have no problem with the spoiling part. :-) [-SM]
Ma- you will make a good lawyer !!
Thanks girlie! Although, for some reason, I think you’re just joking. LOL
Oh yea, got your email. I can’t wait! [-SM]
I’m lovin it!!
I’ll take him over a Big Mac any day! LOL! [-SM]
All I have to say is I’m laughing that BK called you “Diamond.” LOL
And now I can hear that Let Me Upgrade you song in my head… I remember when I was blasting that song preparing myself to go out.. LOL. One more week and we hit the streets Single Ma. Better get your dancing shoes on.
That damn BK makes me sick! LOL!
And yes, I’m ready. Can’t wait to hang out with ya! I’m wearing my new yellow pumps!! [-SM]
Man! that’s awesome! Sharing money info – that’s deeper than sex! So, I don’t know you but i’m at least 10 years older than you so i’m going to say this. I’m proud of you! You get it girl! I’m so happy for you that you are waiting to get all you want. Its a plan that can’t fail! God bless you!
Lawd, she said deeper than SEX! HA HA HA
I’m not like most people who think financial information is personal. I’ll show you my numbers too if you asked. Why not? Think about it, what can you do with the information? Nada. *shrug* [-SM]
Job may not have been right but maybe you were suppose to just learn a bit more and meet Mr. ICandy. If you wouldn’t have taken the leap you would have never met. Let him sweet talk ya but keep your feet grounded and remember you got you this far and you will in the end get you where you need to go…now if he wants to hang on for the ride GREAT !! Good Luck
re: your first sentence. Those were my exact thoughts, which is why I’m at peace with my decision. [-SM]
Ok I’m all for “women’s lib” and everything, but sometimes our strengths can absolutely work to our detriment. Meaning – EVERY should woman want a man that is going to UPGRADE them. To be the ‘HEAD’ – yes like the Bible says. What you don’t want is a DOWNGRADE man – no job having, car borrowing, living with their mamma, begging you for money, no goals, ambitions or dreams and definately not satisfying you man. I’m trying to be like Bee and Jay – Mamma let me up-grade-you…..
Amen Tootie!!!!!
Single Ma– I lurvs ya :) I discovered your blog and I’m loving it. I’m a 22 year old college grad– that’s gainfully employed and I’m trying to make things happen for myself.
LOL @ lurvs
Aint nuttin to it but to do it! [-SM]
LOL, Apparently he doesn’t know who he’s dealing with!!!!
Let him tell it and he’d say it’s the other way around. Ha!
‘Tis all luv. [-SM]
wow what an interesting way to look at it – that finances aren’t personal. so you weren’t concerned at all that maybe that conversation would change the dynamic of your friendship? i figure you could only go there if you guys are already comfortable… i’m glad you guys are enjoying each other’s company.
i was just discussing with someone yesterday that one of the benefits of getting your own financial well being together is that you don’t have to let financial insecurity affect your dynamic with another person.
Keep in mind, I am extremely attracted to this man because of his business savvy, his swagger, and his confidence. So I knew he was holding his own, just didn’t know how much. I can only assume he thought the same about me. The disclosure just confirmed what we both already knew. I’m not saying it was intuitive, but if I thought he was struggling or would have felt less than a man by sharing my info, I would have peeped that out a long time ago. [-SM]
“I have a wealth of financial knowledge at my finger tips and wasn’t tapping this valuable resource? Man, I’ve been slipping!”
Yes, you have…that’s what sometimes happens when the candy tastes that good.LOL
Make sure you share any financial knowledge gained. You know how we need help out here!
You’re the LAST person who needs help! I should be picking YOUR brain! [-SM]
Ma, you got to give me a credit for coining iCandy term :-(
besides that I am deeeeeeeply envious
Maybe some day I will be like you, and the right man will come, so far all I had were fugly frogs, no matter how much I kissed them, they never turned into anything useful
Did you? I’m sorry mama, you got it. Everybody, Rufina coined the “iCandy” term!
I threw this post together before jetting off to work at 7am. Didn’t mean to steal your thunder. [-SM]
He sounds like a keeper.. Seriously. Personal financial stability and awareness is SO HOT
I was joking, Ma!
You can have it!
Now that is a sign of a great leader-acknowledge her peeps and give them due credit :-)
He sounds like a great catch!! I say keep him!
No joke, you sound like an attorney by the way you write! You are straight cut-throut!!
I agree with Fabulously Broke!! Definitely a keeper :)
Let him upgrade you!
Single Ma, let him upgrade ya!! He knows that you don’t ‘need’ it, but hey it does not hurt.