Comments on: The Professional Woman: Leadership Styles http://fabulousfinancials.com/2008/03/the-professional-woman-part-iii.html A single woman on a mission to become healthy & wealthy. Sat, 13 Mar 2010 17:44:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Sistah Ant http://fabulousfinancials.com/2008/03/the-professional-woman-part-iii.html/comment-page-1#comment-10824 Sistah Ant Mon, 31 Mar 2008 22:10:13 +0000 http://fabulousfinancials.com/2008/03/the-professional-woman-part-iii.html#comment-10824 I think my style is mostly participatory, with some of the controlling characteristics thrown in. Nice analysis. I think my style is mostly participatory, with some of the controlling characteristics thrown in. Nice analysis.

]]> By: c2a http://fabulousfinancials.com/2008/03/the-professional-woman-part-iii.html/comment-page-1#comment-10818 c2a Mon, 31 Mar 2008 21:12:08 +0000 http://fabulousfinancials.com/2008/03/the-professional-woman-part-iii.html#comment-10818 I don't manage people but I do make every attempt to take the lead in my work. I'm the paticipatory person and I definitely take setbacks personally. In the past I even spent a few days in bed over a setback. Time has enabled me to pick up and move on faster, but its still felt personally. I have noticed that some of the most successful litigators/business persons I've encountered- mostly older men- also portray much of the participatory style. My father came to court with me one day and pointed out how the attorney's who were less combative, jolly and enthusiastic seemed to do the best in court and earned the ear of the trier. I recently had my first jury trial, which we won. My opposing counsel was very much the command and control type- it made talking on the phone a challenge. When trial was over I spoke with a few of the jurors and they told me how many of the jurors were upset with the opposing counsel. They felt like they were being sneaky, dishonest and mean and kept objecting to things to hide information/evidence to prove my client's case (they were correct.) The case probably could have gone either way but I was the warm and caring one, I built up trust ,my client was honest and our strategy won. I don’t manage people but I do make every attempt to take the lead in my work. I’m the paticipatory person and I definitely take setbacks personally. In the past I even spent a few days in bed over a setback. Time has enabled me to pick up and move on faster, but its still felt personally.

I have noticed that some of the most successful litigators/business persons I’ve encountered- mostly older men- also portray much of the participatory style. My father came to court with me one day and pointed out how the attorney’s who were less combative, jolly and enthusiastic seemed to do the best in court and earned the ear of the trier.

I recently had my first jury trial, which we won. My opposing counsel was very much the command and control type- it made talking on the phone a challenge. When trial was over I spoke with a few of the jurors and they told me how many of the jurors were upset with the opposing counsel. They felt like they were being sneaky, dishonest and mean and kept objecting to things to hide information/evidence to prove my client’s case (they were correct.) The case probably could have gone either way but I was the warm and caring one, I built up trust ,my client was honest and our strategy won.

]]> By: S23 http://fabulousfinancials.com/2008/03/the-professional-woman-part-iii.html/comment-page-1#comment-10805 S23 Mon, 31 Mar 2008 16:49:48 +0000 http://fabulousfinancials.com/2008/03/the-professional-woman-part-iii.html#comment-10805 I once had a female manager who I could not deal with.Once I got into the job I was told by co-workers that the prior 3 or so people before me all quit because of her. I think I lasted one year and finally told HR, either move me or I leave. Fortunately I was given the day off and when I returned I had a new supervisor. She was very nit picky and did not know how to talk to me. I was well aware of who the supervisor was but she always seemed as though she wanted to remind everyone who was in charge. The funny thing is she always felt people didn't respect her b/c she was a woman. It wasn't that at all. On the other hand, I had another female manager who was excellent. She made me feel more like we were a team and she didn't seem to be threatened at me excelling in my job. She was able to motivate me and I was inspired b/c of what she had accomplished. It's very tricky to work for a woman. I hate to say that b/c I am a woman, but sometimes women take things too personal and do not know how to just simply keep it "work" versus being emotional and personal. I once had a female manager who I could not deal with.Once I got into the job I was told by co-workers that the prior 3 or so people before me all quit because of her. I think I lasted one year and finally told HR, either move me or I leave. Fortunately I was given the day off and when I returned I had a new supervisor. She was very nit picky and did not know how to talk to me. I was well aware of who the supervisor was but she always seemed as though she wanted to remind everyone who was in charge. The funny thing is she always felt people didn’t respect her b/c she was a woman. It wasn’t that at all.

On the other hand, I had another female manager who was excellent. She made me feel more like we were a team and she didn’t seem to be threatened at me excelling in my job. She was able to motivate me and I was inspired b/c of what she had accomplished.

It’s very tricky to work for a woman. I hate to say that b/c I am a woman, but sometimes women take things too personal and do not know how to just simply keep it “work” versus being emotional and personal.

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